Refusing requests is Ruth's
Begun's Lesson 27. She follows the elements of instruction
in her teaching, i.e. establishing a need, introducing applications,
modeling the skill, behavior rehearsal (role playing), practice
outside the classroom and independent usage.
The cornerstone of the lesson is identifying the skill
components, which she identifies as:
- Thinking about the the consequences of accepting or
refusing a request.
- Making a decision about accepting or refusing the request.
- If you refuse, do so in a polite manner with a comforting
tone of voice.
- Give the person a reason why you cannot so what he asked.
Objective: The student will graciously refuse a request
Language Arts Standard: Listening
& Speaking/Reading & Writing
The Prop Box
Appropriate Rubric: One for each student to complete
during each role play. To download the student rubric,
• Identify Need
• Introductory Activity: Brainstorm-situations when
you have had to say "no"
• Define Steps and Sequences of Skill
Look at the person directly and use their name.
2. Listen completely to the request.
3. State "I'm sorry."
4. Give a reason why you cannot do what was asked of you.
5. Say "I'm glad you asked me."
6. Offer to do something else or the same thing at another
time. "James, I can't help you with your schoolwork
tonight because my brother is having a birthday party. Thanks
for asking, though. Do you want to study together tomorrow
• Model the Skill
• Role Plays/Classroom Discussion
• Applications Extension: Decline a request in writing
• Independent Uses
Use characters created in the Prop Box and role play five
for the Role Plays
(Speaker)____________________________ Student (Subject)____________________________
Date: _____________________ Observer's
|Did the student look at the person and use their name?
|Did the student listen to the complete request, maintaining
|Did the student state "I'm sorry"?
|Did the student give a believable reason why he could
|Did the student thank the person for asking?
|Did the student offer to comply with the request at