Accepting "No" for an Answer

Educational Objective: The student will graciously react when denied a request.
Language Arts Standard: Writing, Listening and Speaking
Literary Platform: "Prentice Hall "Two Kinds"

Materials Needed:
The Prop Box with 2 telephones
Brainstorm Form
Appropriate Rubric: One for each student to complete during each role play. To download the student rubric, click here

The Lesson:

Identify Need
Introductory Activity: Brainstorm when you might need to accept "no." Teacher writes the situations on an overhead of "The Brain." Students copy the words into their brains. Click here for copy of "The Brain."
Define Steps and Sequences of Skill
1. Look at the person and use their name.
2. Ask yourself if this is a good time to make a request.
3. When the answer is "no" to a request, just say "O. K."
4. Listen for the person's reasons.
5. Stay calm and keep a neutral expression.
6. If you disagree, wait for another time to express your point of view.
7. Thank the person for considering your request. Sound sincere.


Model the Skill
Role Plays/Classroom Discussion
Applications: Talk about the situations in which the students had to accept "no." How did they handle it then. How would they respond now?
Independent Uses: Discuss the game called "Mommy/Daddy." How would this be played in a business situation. Why is it an ineffective strategy?

Rubric for the Role Plays

Student (Speaker)____________________________ Student (Subject)____________________________

Date: _____________________
Observer's Name:___________________________________________

Social Skill: ___________________________________

Observations: No Yes
Look at the person and use their name.
   
Ask yourself if this is a good time to make a request.    
When the answer is "no" to a request, just say "O. K."    
Listen for the person's reasons.    
Stay calm and keep a neutral expression.    
If you disagree, wait for another time to express your point of view.    
Thank the person for considering your request. Sound sincere.
   
Points or Score
   

Additional Comments: _______________________________________________________________________

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Standards Address in Lesson: Extensions- Pretend you received a written notice that you did not get a job. How would you respond in writing?

6th Grade
Speaking Applications: (repeating back what was said to you)
2.4 Offer a logical sequence of information and engage the listener, foster an acceptance of an idea.

7th Grade
Speaking Applications:
1.2 Determine a speakerís attitude toward a subject, i.e. your performance.
1.6 Use speaking techniques, including voice modulation , inflection, tempo, enunciation and eye contact for effective communication.

8th Grade
Speaking Applications:
1.2 Paraphrase a speakerís purpose and point of view and ask relevant questions concerning the speakerís content, delivery and purpose.
1.3 Organize information to achieve particular purposes by matching the message, vocabulary, voice modulation, expression and tone to the audience and purpose.

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