Accepting Compliments

Educational Objective: The student will demonstrate knowledge of accepting a compliment appropriately.
Language Arts Standard: Listening and Speaking

Materials Needed:
The Prop Box with 2 telephones/costumes
Brainstorm Form
Appropriate Rubric: One for each student to complete during each role play. To download the student rubric, click here

The Lesson:

Identify Need
1. People give compliments to others as a way of praising someone's good works. In this lesson we are discussing using words as a form of complimenting someone.
2. There are other ways we compliment someone, such as purchasing something someone made or imitating what they have done. If you neighbor mows his lawn and you see how nice it looks, for example, you would compliment him by mowing your

• Introductory Activity
1. Brainstorms time you can remember when you were given a compliment
2.Discuss how it felt to be given a compliment or when you gave someone a compliment.

Define Steps and Sequences of Skill
1. Look at the person.
2. Say "Thank you."

3. The most important piece is the next sentence. You can say "I am so glad you liked what I did." This is the polite response.
4. You may also credit someone else for the good deed, such as "Thank you. I got a lot of help from Mary." This is a form of "modesty," a way of always acknowledging the people that help.
5. There are incorrect responses. The first is to totally agree with the person giving you a compliment. "Thank you. Yes, I did do a good job. I am very smart." This is "boasting." The second is "discounting" the person by disagreeing with what they say,"Thank you, but I really didn't do a good job."

• Model the Skill
• Role Plays/Classroom Discussion
• Applications
• Independent Uses

Rubric for Role Play

Student (Speaker)____________________________ Student (Subject)____________________________

Date: _____________________
Observer's Name:___________________________________________

Social Skill Being Practiced: _____________________________

Behavior of Speaker: No Yes
Did the speaker look at the person and use his name?
Did the speaker say "Thank you."    
Did the speaker say "I am so glad you liked what I did?"    
Did the speaker share the credit with someone else?    
Did the speaker avoid boasting or discounting the compliment?    

Other Comments: ___________________________________________________________

Supplemental Materials:

It's My Life by Tian Dayton

This is a workbook for teens which includes includes self-image and expressing feelings.


Other Standards Address in Lesson:

6th Grade
Speaking Applications:
2.4 Offer a logical sequence of information and engage the listener, foster an acceptance of an idea.

7th Grade
Speaking Applications:
1.2 Determine a speakerís attitude toward a subject.
1.6 Use speaking techniques, including voice modulation , inflection, tempo, enunciation and eye contact for effective communication.

8th Grade.
Speaking Applications:
1.2 Paraphrase a speakerís purpose and point of view and ask relevant questions concerning the speakerís content, delivery and purpose.
1.3 Organize information to achieve particular purposes by matching the message, vocabulary, voice modulation, expression and tone to the audience and purpose.